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Q. Ok so I have a crush on a really good friend of mine, we have been hanging out alot lately and any other time i would have no problem making a move but it's not the same coz it's a girl, you see we talk about same sex encounters and both made it clear that we would try it i'm not gay and nether is she but i have this sexual attraction to her. but im afraid if i try anything and get rejected and hurt our friendship.
A. It really depends on the friend. Everyone gets curious about both sides of sexual relationships, and many people experiment with members of the same sex even though they do not consider themselves gay.
If you feel uncomfortable about making a move then you have two options: a) wait for her to make the first move, or b) talk to her about it.
With option B you do not have to jump right out and say "Hi, I think you're hot" but you could ask it in a sort of non chalant way that doesnt freak her out if she doesnt feel the same way towards you. If you find out she DOES feel the same way towards you then that is something you can talk to her about and maybe experiment with. If you are worried about ruining your friendship with her, which I don't think it will happen, unless she doesnt feel that way towards you, then it may be a little akward.
First thing is first, find out how she feels and act on that. Don't supress your feelings for her, but don't frighten her away either. Act as if she was a guy friend, and this same situation was occuring. That may ease the stress a little.