The Philosopher had his final chorus concert for the school year on Tuesday. The concert, of course, was great. Then after, I was talking to Hermit while we were waiting for the Philosopher to have a few minutes to talk with his friends.

Hermit told me that his mom had been giving him a hard time in November for not coming to see her before she went into back surgery. Then, the next thing he heard about her was that she was in a nursing home after going "septic" and that her mind was gone. I guess she had a blood infection after the surgery and it messed up her brain. Of course, I told him that I was sorry that she's so ill. And he said that he wasn't sorry, that the world would be a better place after she's gone...

I am horrified. I know he says that he hates his mom. From the stories I've heard, she was neglectful and not much of a mom. But that he'll be glad she's dead? I'm horrified. I keep flashing back to when we were in Philosopher's counselor's office and he was saying that he thought that he had taught his sons to respect women- and I was thinking _not_. I am very bothered by the fact that he is acting this way about his mom in front of his kids. (yes, Philosopher was there by that point). I can only imagine what he's saying when I'm not around... and is there any wonder that my sons treat me like they do when he is openly so hateful and disrespectful towards his mother?

Oy.