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Sisters? Try twin sister.
Now I'm going to enlighten all of you who have some strange idea about twins. No, no we can not hear each others thought, as much as you would like it to be true. No, most of us are not identical copies of each other - not even Mary-kate and Ashley. No, to be honest, we don't have some special secret bond that only we share.
"It's just like having a sister who shares the same birthday as you." We fight, we have laughs - heck, if I take me and Hana as an example, we're the complete opposite. I like metal, she likes rap, I like skirts, she likes trousers, I eat too much, she doesn't eat at all, I have blonde hair, she's dyed hers brown, we don't share the same friends, we were in different form-groups back in school, and now we go to separate colleges.
It's hard... being the twin that still wants to be a twin. Hana doesn't want to be a twin. That quote up there is what she said; the one about sharing a birthday. I think being a twin is so much more. It's supposed to be someone you can depend on and talk to, who you can share things with and who you can trust with anything. Me and Hana don't have that :/ She won't even tell me why she's upset. She lashes out at me, and I'll admit I lash back, but I really hate it. I went so far as to punch her square in the face once - there was a reason but it was so far back now...
I treasure the memories from when we were little; back when Hana was still happy to be around me. We used to go to a fun-house together, and my dad told me a story once where we were playing, then a group of girls asked if I wanted to play with them and started to pull me away, but I tugged my hand free and ran back to Hana, calling out for her to come and play with us. I want those times to come back... :(
I'm scared it's going to get worse and worse, and end up like my dad and his twin - my dad's like me; he wants to see his twin a lot, but my uncle won't have anything to do with him. I don't want Hana to end up like that. I do love her, so much, but I just wish she would talk with me just a little bit.
If you're reading this and you've got a twin, are you the same? Or are you one of these rare cases where you actually love your twin and the feelings mutual? If you are, I envy you. I really REALLY do.
Love,
Sarah xx
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Hey Sarah. I'm a twin too. But we're polar opposites. It doesn't feel like we are twins either. I think it all started because my mom never pushed us to be the same people. But mostly..we just have different personalities. You can read a brief explanation on my profile. I'm new. I think I would like it if we stayed in touch. [shortgirl89]
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9/26/2011 5:37:23 PM
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Actually we never really were. I feel like she's more like our next youngest sister- the girly one. Not because she's very girly but they do that finishing each other's sentences and stuff. Mostly, I think we aren't close because she's always been messy & spontaneous and care free & I've always been the deep thinker & worrier & the one who wants everything to be perfect. We're just different [shortgirl89]
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9/26/2011 5:48:18 PM
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The idea of twins has always fascinated me, and it's wierd, the twins I know the best (ironically they were born on the same day as me), were BOTH in several of my classes, and it got confusing because they were superficially very similar, but once I got to know them, they seemed to be reaching to be their own person.
:)
[crookedteeth]
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9/26/2011 5:54:58 PM
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She's 16. Most 16 year old girls don't want siblings. It's a teenage thing. [Beast of Burden]
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9/26/2011 6:36:44 PM
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Funny, you sound like me. I don't have a twin, but my sister and I are at a war that I don't know where it started from. And now she has a baby that she's letting be stuck in the middle :( [wonderstruck.]
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9/26/2011 7:15:51 PM
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I have twin daughters that are 24 and they are very close. They are fraternal, too. Both are active duty Air Force. One is in MD and the other is assigned to Germany. They are having a difficult time being so far from each other. [J8XMOM]
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9/26/2011 9:40:01 PM
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I've always wondered if twins really are at all similar. [john 2.3]
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9/26/2011 10:16:50 PM
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I do not have a twin, however, I have 2 very close sisters and one of them, 7 years my junior, acts, sounds and looks a LOT like me. I think the stronger the bonds between the siblings, the closer you remain in the long run. [Kristin with an i]
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9/26/2011 10:56:25 PM
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I didn't know twin's could be so popular on a site, my twin and i are relatively close, we have the same friends and some of the same classes. My sister likes to be really close, but i guess i have the same view where she's just another girl that sorta looks like me and acts like me. But just cuz there's 2 of us, doesn't mean we have to smother each other. soft love is equivalent to the greatest:) [ewu100]
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9/26/2011 11:10:14 PM
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there was a pair of twins at my school and they were inseperable. hair cuts usually the same. used highlighted/ dyed the same or VERY similar. went to the same college. they seem to be the opposite. but i wasn't close really with either one of them...
[Just Breathe.]
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9/26/2011 11:38:19 PM
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My bf is a twin who is not close to his brother at all - he (my bf) has made a concerted effort to not carry on the family legacy of emotional repression and abuse, so he's kind of the black sheep of his family. It's sad for him that he and his twin aren't great mates, but it's the way it turned out. and he's tried to fix it, but got nowhere. [Dictynna]
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9/27/2011 6:34:38 AM
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hugs i feel for you sweetie x [Lilmrspanda]
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9/27/2011 7:04:53 AM
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hey girl. i saw you on the front page when i signed in. i really like how you write :) thats so cool that you are a twin. and that your dad was. im sorry you feel like shes pulling away from you. but i agree with one of your noters.. your young and at the stage where "siblings arent cool" ehh there will be a day that she will come running to you. once she realizes how important family really is. [.jubilant.dreamer.]
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9/27/2011 8:18:19 AM
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i actually have a sister.. we are a year apart and we are so close. we went through high school hanging out as much as we could together. and then now we go to the same college on the same softball team and we basically spend every waking moment together.. except in classes of course :P its nice always having someone there to turn to and i can see that you want that too. but dont worry your sister [.jubilant.dreamer.]
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9/27/2011 8:20:02 AM
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.. will snap out of it and she will come running to you.. wait a couple years.. once the two of you mature a lil :) and if it doesnt happen talk to her about it.. be like i dont wanna end up like our dad and uncle. she might blow you off but she will think about it.. silently :) everything will be fine love <3 [.jubilant.dreamer.]
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9/27/2011 8:21:47 AM
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I have twin brothers who couldn't be more opposite. I think they love each other because they have to. I'm so sorry. :(
[perfunctory]
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9/27/2011 9:41:42 AM
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interesting. [Tiriel]
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9/27/2011 9:53:01 AM
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I suspect that there's always one twin who strives to stand alone. As twins, most people by nature define you as a pair, and when you're a teenager, is anything more important than forging your own, individual identity?
Give her time. Be yourself, be happy, and remind her that you're there, but give her her space. I think she'll find her way back to you. [james ensor]
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9/27/2011 9:56:44 AM
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i have an identical twin sister... we are 24 years old.. she is my best friend. granted we are kinda opposite but we just know when we need each other.... i dont know what i would do if she just said she didnt want to be a twin anymore..... we were apart for a year when she moved away and i cried everyday... but she moved back now and i just cant seem to get enough of her :) [*theprincess*]
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9/27/2011 10:29:13 AM
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I'm a twin too. I promise it gets better. My twin and I didn't get along at ALL in high school. Different sets of friends and whatnot. But I can honestly say that now we're adults, we're best friends again. And that special bond does come back. It's just that at 16, everybody wants to be an individual and separate and it's nearly impossible as a twin because *everybody* sees you as part of a set (identical or not). [keepsake]
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9/27/2011 10:50:35 AM
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It's a shame that she feels like that now, but maybe soon she will notice the value of your relationship. I don't have a twin, by I have an older brother. When I was 4-9, my brother included me in EVERYTHING. Sometimes I got in the way, but he didn't mind. He and his friends defended me, and played with me, and spent time with me. When we moved to the US from Puerto Rico, basically.... [[ Luna ]]
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9/27/2011 10:56:15 AM
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I got into Rock and he liked Rap. He dressed what I kind of view as a bum, and I'm sort of a nerdy kid who always does good. But now that the years have gone by and he's 23 and I'm 20, we are very much a part of each other's lives. I ask him for advice, and he asks me for advice. We hang out and play video games. And weirdly enough, we're not twins like I said, we are 3 years apart. [[ Luna ]]
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9/27/2011 10:57:33 AM
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But his birthday is on November 22, 1987. I was born November 21, 1990. He and I are very much alike, and in the things that we find in common, like video games and family and sometimes in the pursuit of happiness we find common ground. Otherwise, I'm just supportive. I always tell people "I might not always LIKE my brother, but I will always LOVE him." I think it will pass :) [[ Luna ]]
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9/27/2011 10:59:12 AM
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I know it really sucks not getting that bond or relationship you really want :(
My friends always tell me "give it time" but at the rate we're going my sister wont even be at my wedding.
Do you ever talk to her about your feelings? [Lost_Star]
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9/27/2011 1:26:28 PM
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I had the same problem with my twin for a while, so I know exactly how you feel. I was always the one trying to become closer while she pushed away and also with the fighting been there done that we had some pretty bad ones, honestly you should probably just talk to her and control the fighting. we are our own people but since we are twins we are also bound to our sibling in a way. Just talk even [hollowwoods]
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9/29/2011 1:02:56 PM
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if you guys have a world of diffrences that can make your relationship better, maybe you should try to get to know one another again.
[hollowwoods]
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9/29/2011 1:06:38 PM
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