So plenty of feedback about my last entry, most of it concerned about the legality (prostitution) and also the appropriateness of what I was suggesting. Of course there were also a few saying – well hey if you guys are both fine with it, then whats the beef.
Firstly, I guess I am somewhat confused about where on earth people were figuring prostitution into the process. Providing a free hand job to a client if they would like it is hardly prostitution. I guess in some peoples eyes they may wish to see it that why. But Babe and I would not. In any event prostitution in NZ is legal. Hell why wouldn’t it be, worlds oldest profession.
So then there’s the issue about appropriateness. Look I can totally understand that in a conventional relationship this would be probably a difficult one – but I have been on the earth long enough now to realise there is no such then as "conventional" anyway. I mean who’s the judge? So long as those involved are all in agreement and adults – then that is all that is needed.
Give you an example. In our papers the other day it was reported that membership of a UK based Internet site which assisted married men and woman to hook up with each other for no strings attached sex had an substantional increase in members during the heavy snows. Total membership was over 350,000 people now. So there is a situation where married people our having affairs without any knowledge of the other partner. And heaps of them. Bloody near an epidemic. Sure there are lots of reasons why people have affairs and you will know them all. But generally an unhappy sex life is quite a common reason. Why is that, cause sex just becomes so darn boring in most peoples marriages. It sure did in mine – before I met my new Babe.
Frankly we have allowed religon, for the most part, to totally screw up our perspective of nudity and sexuality. And then confuse it all with love and commitment. I have no doubt that is why the US is so backward in these areas. Gosh. last year I was in Europe for 3 weeks. mainly in Germany and Austria, and every hotel I stayed in had large spa facilities available. with as many as four different type of sauna’s as well as spas etc. Everyone one of them was mixed and full nudity was just a given. No hang ups, just enjoying the pleasures of the facilities provided in mixed company. Sadly these don’t exist in NZ and that will be because of our British heritage, but even the Brit’s our more open minded on these topics than are the US. You only need to see the sort of TV’s programming allowed in adult viewing times in England vs what is allowed in the US.
So while I accept this entry is a little all over the place – what i am trying to say is – that if people were a lot more open minded about nudity and sexuality I strongly believe marriages would be a lot stronger and a lot more fun. Marriage is about love and commitment between two people. It does not provide some sort of ownership rights over one another. However honesty and trust are also essential in a healthy marriage. so having affairs behind the others back will eventually lead to a breakdown – well mostly. But having a relationship where you introduce sexual encounters with others – in what ever way you are both comfortable with – adds considerable spice to the sexual part of your relationship believe me.
How many OD’s have I read where one person is so unhappy about living in a sexless relationship. This all confirms that a good sexual relationship is generally very important in marriages. I for one know exactly what it is like to live in a sexless relationship and frankly I don’t want to be in another. Neither does my babe. We are totally committed to each other and very much in love. But do we we enjoy sexual expereinces with others from time to time – hell yes we do enjoy it. And we then have many wonderful romps as we relive those expereinces in verbalised erotic banter between us.
So back to the matter of the "happy endings" for the occasional client in my Babes massage clinic. Can’t see any harm in that. I mean how many guys out there would say no to that if it were offered. No many I’d profer. And whats wrong with that. For many of them it probably exactly what they’d do to themselves when they got home anyway. And we all know its always better when someone else does it. Do I believe it breaks some form of martial trust. Actually no I don’t. Obviously it would be best if the guy could tell his wife about what had happened. Of course most wont as their wives would go berserk. I mean why – over a hand job. No doubt most of the guys wouldn’t have had one offered by their own wives in years.
Oh well, said enough I think. will leave it at that for tonight.
Here’s to more "Happy Endings"