Who are you?

Have you ever been asked about your self and weren’t able to answer?

I had a conversation with my sister tonight that had me thinking. I had called her this evening because when I had talked to earlier in the day she was very upset with somethings that were said to her. So I called her this evening to check in on her and I could hear in her voice that something was still wrong.

Now a little background on my sister, she has a very big personality in all the right ways (at least I think so) that causes all the attention to fall on her at times. This is not something she does on purpose, she is not one who needs all the attention on her. She just has this way of bringing the whole room to life. I’ve always personally admired her for that because I am not like that at all. I’m what you would say on the meaner side of things. I don’t talk to anyone unless I have to or I really like you, I’m way more reserved.

Anyways tonight when I was talking to my sister she started crying saying that who she is, is always a problem and that broke my heart. She started naming all the things I love about her like they were problem.

I realize that people say the time about how we should compromise  but why should you have to compromise things about your self in the sense of what makes up who you are. I don’t feel that anyone should feel bad about things about them selves.

Are you the kind of person who is the life of the party? Are you a person who everyone wants to talk to? Are you more someone who likes being in smaller groups? Has anyone ever told you because you smile or laugh a lot that your being to flirty? Have you ever been the one who everyone just gravities to so automatically you get told you just want to be the center of attention?

If you cannot be your self then what’s the point in being around those your around? When did it become okay to just put someone down? I personally feel like if someone only wants to change everything about then its not worth having them in your life. You should have people in your life that can match your energy or coexist with it not people who try to shut it down.

People shouldn’t be afraid to say who they are, or not know who they are because someone else is trying to make the decision for them.

It took me some time to learn that and I hope more than anything I can help my sister learn the same thing. Of course there are times she drives me a little crazy but I love her to death and I love that her and I are so different at times because she helps me see things differently.