Resilience and Growth

Thanksgiving without her was different. I want to forgive her for what she’s done but i cant get over that she’s done this before and she will again. I want to do whats right for my kids, i think they are taking it well (on the outside) however on the inside i know they are confused as hell.

It was just about a month ago that my 9 yr old daughter embarrassingly saw me dancing and kissing my wife and she said how come you guys kiss so much, I love being that way, but i cant help to think that while this was happening my wife had been having this hidden affair, is like she cant be happy with one person, she needs constant validation.

I would give her all the support and attention, I was here for her on everything yet that is not enough. I am convinced that these are traits of “Narcissistic Personality” where a person cannot feel empathy and as a result does things that hurt others in the process.

For my part I need to stay strong…. yes i created a Tinder Profile I need something to patch this for a bit, i need to grow and stay strong

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November 26, 2018

Oh, I really feel your pain..  And I understand the need for that patch.  I wish you the best of luck and I hope that you can heal

December 3, 2018

What’s right for your kids is for them to see you in a positive relationship, whether it’s with their mother or it’s with another woman. Yes, watching your parents go through a divorce is hard, but as long you both make time for them, and mommy and daddy are both happy, even apart, they can still grow up to be happy and well-adjusted adults.

December 4, 2018

@justamillennial Thank you for the kind Notes! writing here is therapy and is because not only one can put thoughts on “paper” but also because of folks perspectives!