Deliberations – It’s Up for Debate

“I don’t ever try to deliberately hurt you”

You texted those exact words to me.

Let play devil’s advocate for a minute and I’ll respond with:

“Then why for 1.5 years did you look me in the eyes on multiple occasions and say that you were all in, you were trying, you loved me, and you wouldn’t hurt me – that you understood when I said “If I find out you are cheating or that I’m being lied to, it will literally break me. It will crush me” all while having an emotional and sexual relationship with another woman.”

And per usual; I already know the outcome:

•You will become defensive.

•You will bring up a screenshot from mine and someone’s Facebook messages that was sent to your sister who then sent it to you after you told her about the affair. And that message has no dates and it reads (paraphrasing) “We are separated but not telling anyone”. You claim this message was before you got with her. Reference above-said screenshot messages have no timestamp, no date, and no context before or after. I am not denying the message was sent, but context before and after said statements make a difference especially given the person I was conversating with. So then you “justify” by saying “You said we were separated so technically I was allowed to do whatever”…

•To which I have replied on numerous conversations “If we were separated then why when you were asked about her sucking your dick in a pictures did you deny it? If we were separated and allowed to be with others then WHY did you start fights with me because I wouldn’t fuck you. If we were separated why did you get drunk and start fights with me belittling me.” If we were not together then you should have just be honest? But we both know its a lie and you got caught. You are a two faced disgusting pig. You wanted me at home – reliable, faithful, doing ALL of the housework, caring for OUR children, still getting sex when you showered (because remember you showered 1x a week?) AND you wanted a fantasy life where you looked like a victim and needed a whore to make you feel something. You ABSOLUTELY wanted your cake and to eat it too. You yourself said you were never going to tell me.

So again when you sent me that text: “I don’t ever try to deliberately hurt you” – please explain how the above mentioned isn’t deliberately hurting me? I called you out and caught you since September 2024; and you continued to string me along lying to me. Lying to me about working, lying to me about your “location”, lying to me about a fake life you were living….