#metoo

How many cliche’s do we have that describe the times of troubles? Light at the end of the tunnel, darkest before dawn…I’m sick of cliches. Do they really even help or are we just trying to fool ourselves into holding on a bit longer? Whatever we need to tell ourselves to keep pressing forward I&h...

It has been 848 days since the false accusation happened and our lives haven’t been the same. Days like today really bring me down, I haven’t heard from R since about 7am and normally he calls a few times to check in. Naturally my brains goes into worst case scenario every time because this situa...

I know some of the most wonderful men to ever exist.  None of them are perfect, but then neither are any of the women that I know.  They listen.  They discuss.  They can apologize.  They can take no for an answer. Lately, I feel like simmering cauldron of rage.  My fiancé loves true crime.  About...

It is not even 9:00 AM, and I’ve already had my fill of testosterone for a while. This is not about Drew.  I’ll explain later.

Donal called, this morning.  Donal, as you may recall, is my biological father.  He left the state before I was born and we had zero contact until I went looking for him when I was about 21.   We have had tiny bits of contact over the nearly three decades since. I suspect Donal is on…

If you are not one of THOSE men, then this is not addressed to you.  If anything within this letter offends you or makes you feel defensive, you may want to ask yourself if you might be one of THOSE men. "Those men" are the men I see in discussion threads who ironically throw out…

I have created a group on Facebook set aside specifically to discuss sensitive topics, so that those topics do not create drama on my regular wall. One of the topics discussed frequently in our group is #MeToo.  Some members of our group think it’s a bad thing.  I am very passionate about it.  I ...

Last night, Drew and I were watching a show called "Secret Life of the Zoo."  I should say that Drew was watching it.  I was playing games on my iPad (Merge Dragons and HomeScapes) and listening.  Because I wasn't paying close attention, I don't recall what animals were being observed, nor do I r...

I can't begin to imagine the pain that the last couple weeks has caused to the survivors of abuse in our midst - as a male in this society, I learn more and more every day how many of the women around us have suffered abuse at the hands of men, and I am ashamed…

Some things that I came across this morning that were meaningful: "The tree cannot grow without daring the lightning." This is a quote a colleague from India attributed to one of her teachers. I really like it, hadn't heard it before. Grieving  This entry from Idorgaf, the parable of the jar with...