the changing family unit. edit*

it’s a sad day at times>

i realize the changing family unit. it’s not unheard of i know, this friend has divorced parents, this friend has one parent, this friend has one parent with a significant other, this friend has two moms, this friend has two dads, this friend has a mom with a girlfriend, this friend has a dad with a boyfriend. this friend lives with his brother. etc.

whatever happened to biological parents putting pants on, sticking it through the rough times, and coming out on top? have we really come to a place in the world to where now it’s truly all about me? all about how i can make myself as comfortable as possible? is it try it, and if it doesn’t work, retreat and try a different way? more comfortable way?

it’s like people are running through fields, falling and scraping their knees, so they turn around, too scared to finish that field.

to me there’s something more noble to be said, ‘this is OUR son. we stuck together. and when i thought i didn’t love him, i pressed on anyways. and i know i do love him now."

because love isn’t about mushy feelings, or high hopes and dreams, it’s more than that.

love isn’t about what’s best for me, or what’s best for her.. it’s more than that.

love obviously isn’t about taking abuse, or living through hell, but it is more than that.

the family is a losing unit in the world, and it saddens me. i’m talking a true family. i don’t give a crap about political correctness, i’m talking about mom, dad, and children. to be completely blunt, i’m talking about female mom, male dad, and children. that is a unit that cannot ever be replaced by look-alikes, act-alikes, or try-to-be-likes. there’s something to be said when children can look up and say, ‘wow, i thought my parents couldn’t make it this far, but they did. and they still love me, and each other. i want that.’

they wouldn’t be left off looking for what really makes sense in this world, because their family sure didn’t show them.

but somewhere along the way, the world said that its every man for itself, and it broke the bonds of marriage, it made the ‘one flesh’ two again. and that’s sad.

* coming out on top – in response to one note i’ve already gotten, and i’m sure others who might read this the wrong way; don’t think that i think parents should stick together hating each other, or ignoring their problems. i agree that there are situations that just its best if the parents do split. but i also think that some people give up too easily at times. sometimes when people rough it through the problem and stick together (and actually love each other after the fact) it makes them stronger.

* yes i disapprove of homosexuality. just like some people disapprove of muslims or Christians, or smokers, or drunkards. it’s another lifestyle that i don’t approve of . oh well. doesn’t mean i don’t like the people. it’s a god-given right to have an opinion, don’t sue me for mine.