Update On Stuff

Hi folks,

Well, Sweety has finished her 4th (out of 9) trimesters in acupuncture, and took part of her break to fly down to see her Mom in Tallahassee.  Her mom has visited us several times, but it’s been several years since Sweety’s been down to visit her, so this will be a good trip for them both.  Sweety did really well on some finals, and squeaked by on point location.  But she’s through, and they like her.  😉 

Now, before an interesting bit or two of news, some background….

 Part One:  A couple of months ago, Sweety and I picked up another of our friends from the TG club, K, and headed up to Baltimore (oh, excuse me, B’lmre) to meet another friend, M, who took us downtown to a thai restaurant.  I think that was the first time I’d been out at a regular place as Jude, and it was great to have company while doing it. 

Everyone up there was just fine, the food was great, the only problem was that M is much more of a party girl than we are, and she wanted to go bar hopping while the other 3 of us were dying! And of course, M had driven… so we had to plead nicely.  😉 

Now, remember, we have quite a few classmates from acupuncture who live near or in Baltimore, and this was the hot restaurant district (actually, it felt like 10 frelling degrees, but you get my point).  Now, we’re walking back to M’s car, and way over there, we spot this other group of 3 or 4 folks, and one of them looks like one of our classmates, L.  L is young, gay, and currently single, and this was supposedly the LGBT friendly part of town. 

So, the next week at school, L comes up to Sweety and says “were you in Baltimore for dinner Saturday nite? I think I saw you with 3 other women around whatever street”…  Sweety admits yep, she was in Baltimore with some friends for dinner at the thai place.

Now, L spotted us about a half block away. Sweety has very distinctive, long hair, so she’s easy to pick out in a crowd. 

Now, a few weeks later, Sweety gets M to come into class for one of their practice patient interaction classes.  M looks great, has had facial surgery, but not bottom surgery, and was more than willing to come in and talk.  She pretty much floored the crowd, I heard.  She’s pretty nice, we like her a lot.  Part of the conversation with Sweety ended up mentioning the TG/TS support group, which Sweety and I have nicknamed “The Girls Club”. 

Then, later, L comes up to Sweety and asks whether it would be okay if she tagged along with Sweety at some point to one of the Girls Club meetings.

You get where this is going?  We have not yet explicitly told L (or any other classmate for that matter), that I’m T – that I’m Jude.  Maybe L figured it out, maybe she recognized me (although that would have been pretty insightful on her part), maybe she’s just clever. 

So, Sweety related all this to me, and she’s very willing to let L know the whole deal, and invite her to come along to our next meeting.  So am I. 

Part Two:  I finished reading “She’s Not The Man I Married” by Helen Boyd awhile back, and was totally wowed by the book.  Her and Betty’s story sounded closer to Sweety’s and mine than any other story I’ve ever read, and it’s well written and raises a slew of really interesting talking points.  So, as soon as I finished it, Sweety started in reading it too.  Now, she’s not done with it, but packs it in her bag for heading to see her Mom.  Before I realized that, I had been thinking that a whole week might present opportunities for Sweety to talk to her Mom, so I told her that if she felt like it, I was okay with her telling her Mom about me and the trans business.  Sweety admitted that she’d been strongly considering that, and waves the book around and says “I’m bringing this and I wasn’t going to hide it”.

Well.  There you go. 

I am totally amazed once again by this wonderful woman.  She surprises and delights me with how she’s adapted to this curve ball I’ve thrown her.  And we, as a couple, continue to proceed thru this journey. 

I think that’s enough for right now.  I’ve got a bunch of thoughts rolling around in the cranium about:

There are a lot of life situations where one has the opportunity to re-examine what one’s life is based on, what and who you really are, and what you really want to do with the rest of your life.  So, the question kinda started as “what kind of woman do I want to be? What kind of woman am I? " 

This leads to all sorts of thoughts about stuff that leads up to and includes the meaning of life. but I promise the next entry won’t be that long.  😉

Love you all,

Jude