Shock

My friend, (Let call her, Denise) got pregnant.

YES! She is my age. And YES, she is not married yet.

She asked for my advise, *sigh* what can I say? I can’t decide for her given the situation..

To abort the child:

1) She kills a life

2) Due to her poor health, she might not be able to conceive again

To get marry to the guy and give birth

1) She still don’t know if he is really the one, even tho’ she loves him

2) She is studying part time like me, she will not want to give up her studies not even defer. She wants to just skip a few lesson and take the exams

3) The guy abused her before, although now Denise claim that he had treated her very well after they patch back

4) Both familes are not at good relationships since the abuse case reported to the police

5) Naturally both parents dun approve the relationship

6) She can’t stand the sight of her bf’s parents as well. Or can practically say, she hates his mum.

I dunno what can be done, I think unable to conceive worries her a lot. I asked her to check with the doctor the percentage of risk she is taking if she really aborts. But then, I only can help her to analysis on both sides of situations and not make decisions.

She is seeing the doctor today to confirm her pregnancy, well wonder how could it be false alarm after 3 pregnancy kit had shown positive result.

Denise told me she dun want to be unhappy and regret for the rest of her life when she abort the baby but will she be happy after she gave birth to the child? The answer might be also a “No” as well. For the mistake that she had made, she had to pay the price.. unfortunately for her, the risk of unable to conceive seemed to be much a higher price compared to normal girls.

I feel so surprise at my age now, marriage seem so frequent asked questions. Suddenly, I see friend getting married.. 2 of got pregnant before marriage… and by the time I realized one of them is married, she already had got a 2-month-old baby!!!!

I feel shock, all of the sudden.. I can sense the change of values in us and witness some of it happening.. the generation that I am in seemed to be caught in the interval of these change in values towards life and relationships.

When someone ask me, “now who is next (to get married)?”

“Well, can’t really tell… for all I know.. it could be the one who I least expect to be……”