First Day Back from PA

I’m so happy to be home I had to post. It’s not that I didn’t have a wonderful trip because I did, but I’m so relieved to be home.

I went to PA to visit my sister and take the family ash’s home. It was a beautiful trip. I feel like I mended a tear in my life. Pennsylvania is BEAUTIFUL. I don’t think I laid eyes on a single business or residential building that wasn’t historic. It was like walking onto a movie set. I did a graveyard crawl and it was everything I dreamed of and more. Words do not do it justice. The graveyards are EVERYWHERE. And I mean legitimate graveyards – attached to churches and everything. Graves from the early 1800’s. I’m sure they must have graves from the 1700’s, but there were so many that were so old you cannot read them anymore. The architecture was amazing. The humidity was murder. The landscape was incredible. We even did a full moon kayak adventure. Truly amazing.

I had to buy a second luggage to come back with. In no small part due to my sister choosing the biggest, heaviest urn she possibly could for mom and dad. It was a big beautiful hard shell luggage and they scuffed it up and dented it before I even made it onto the first plane. Figures. Oh well… it’s luggage.

I got the real story behind my brother (Errin) from my sister (Kim) and OMG is it a train wreck. I had always wondered what the hell he did with all the money he got from mom when she passed away. I let them have my share of the social security and I never asked for any part of the property. He got at least $2500 from her bank account, he got the left over money from what was set aside for her cremation, he got the land, the house, literally everything. There was an unspoken agreement between my sister and I that if he could just be independent and not ask to live with one of us we’d let him have everything.

But it wasn’t long before he was asking for more. I figured he blew everything on fast food and cigarettes or something. Turns out, no sooner was mom dead, he was blowing all of the money on prostitutes and porn. Yup my friends, porn and hookers. Never mind the fact that it’s 2025 and you can get porn free online… He doesn’t know how to “use the internet” and bought so many dirty magazines that when he stored them up in the rafters of the stand alone garage, the weight was so heavy the wooden support beams had started twisting.

His “girlfriend” Julie is actually one of the prostitutes he bought who he let move in with him. They trashed mom’s house and turned it into a crack house. Kim said when she went out to clean it up she found all sorts of pipes and drug paraphernalia, trash and vandalism everywhere, and even dead rats in the beds. The furniture was destroyed and rat eaten. She said that all the food that mom had stock piled Errin had either just given away to the neighbors or left in the fridge to rot. She said it was so rancid she had to step outside the trailer just to breathe.

He had stopped paying the utilities, so the electric was cut off and all the frozen food had also gone rancid. He stopped paying the gas and she had to shell out thousands of dollars to get the tank rental back and have it partially filled to maintain the heat in the trailer just so that the pipes wouldn’t burst, except Errin lied to her when he said they winterized the trailer; they hadn’t done anything at all. Apparently his hooker/girlfriend Julie had told him Kim was full of shit and nothing would happen. Which meant when freezing temperatures hit ALL the pipes in the trailer splintered and the whole plumbing system was shot. And clearly they knew about it before she did because they went and took shits in the toilet before they abandoned it completely, and left it there for months until Kim came to check things out and wound up having to clean the putrid mess they’d left behind. Mind you- Kim is who they both keep going to every time they want to borrow money. And Kim is on the deed to the house, so she’s tied to this crap. At one point the house goes into lien because of course, Errin hasn’t bothered to pay the land taxes. So Kim pays everything and saves it from being auctioned off.

That’s just the property. Apparently Errin stopped paying his car insurance and health insurance too (he doesn’t feel he should have to work either, so he hasn’t bothered to get a job during any of this) and then promptly crashed his car. He’s been ragingly pissed at the whole family because we won’t buy him a car. Clearly he’s back on methamphetamine again, probably got it from the hooker because she has drug issues too, because he’s been threatening everyone in the family saying that we’ve all conspired together to make him fail and it’s our fault because we haven’t bought him a car. He’s even been threatening to kick my husband’s ass, who he’s never even met or spoken to.

By this point Kim say’s he’s just flat out abusive. He screams at her over the phone, calls her names, threatens the whole family and at some point she has to hang up in-between all his screaming because he’s so out of control she literally cannot communicate with him. He also doesn’t allow them to have a private phone call. If he’s on the phone with Kim she’s on speaker phone so Julie can hear everything and jump in if “necessary.” Clearly Julie is using him and trying to separate him from his only family. He’s obviously a mark to him because there’s no way someone is going to support him for free, and it’s our belief she knows he has money coming to him in the form of a property sale and she must want that. Kim even bought him a phone when he’s got disconnected, and not only did he never bother to even call or text her from it the week after he got it, he started giving it to Julie to use and Julie tried pretending to be Errin to obtain the account passwords. Julie will delete Kim’s messages and randomly send Kim paragraphs and paragraphs of hate mail.

Well, having used up and destroyed everything he was left in less than a year, now Errin and Julie are living off of some 78 year old man who used to be a “John” of Julie’s before she made Errin her mark. I guess this 78 year old man also has a couple siblings that are constantly trying to get them away from him, starting eviction proceedings and stuff which of course piss off Errin and Julie. Kim said they finally agreed to sell the house because Errin had let his healthcare go and tried getting on Medicaid and didn’t pay them either, and Kim let him know that they’ll take any assets he has (ahem, the house?) but of course Julie told him otherwise so he didn’t believe her. Well, since he trashed the car and refuses to work he couldn’t live in the trailer anymore because it’s so far out of town, and since the property no longer has utilities he couldn’t survive there anyway. So he agrees to sell the property, but both he and Kim are on the deed and he’s clueless. So Kim does all the work getting realtors, and paperwork, and inspections… and she tells him that because he’s on the paperwork he needs to come do this stuff with her.

You’d think he’d be thankful to have someone not only knowledgeable in it it, but willing to do it for him, but no. She tells him in advance when she’ll be there to pick him up so they can do whatever they need to, buys him breakfast and coffee and then goes to get him. He doesn’t answer his phone, until he does screaming, and the whole time she’s driving he’s in her face screaming and threatening her life. She said they were out on one of the rural Colorado roads and she didn’t know if she was going to survive… she actually thought he was going to carry through on his threats and kill her.

After all that, she gets a buyer for the house and everything set up- but he’s surprised that she’s refusing to give him all the money and she wants to split it. He thought after all that, that she’d actually hand over her share of the sale to him. So he sabotaged the sale and refused to sign.

He does this TWICE. Until she agrees to eat the cost of all the repairs she had to do after him and Julie destroyed the house. Which she did just to make the sale and get away from him. Except…. joke is on him. Because he didn’t want to do any of the work selling the house, and because the house was an inheritance from our mother, she was made the administrator of the estate. And since it was originally mom’s, the estate was broken up into thirds. Errin, Kim, and our mother. So as the estate administrator, Kim has control over mom’s share. Which means instead of getting half, Errin only got a third and he has no legal claim to mom’s share.

BOOOOOYYYYYY is he mad. He’s been calling her the whole week I was there saying he’s pissed he didn’t get his money.

He did get his share of the money, but he feels like he’s entitled to Mom’s share. But here’s another detail (like there isn’t enough), Kim kept telling him that Julie just wants the cash from the property sale, and that he needs to have some sense of preservation. She told him to get a bank account in his name and not to give Julie the information. He wouldn’t believe her though. All he said was that he had “a” bank account to route the money to. Of course he was already making plans to blow it before he even got it. So who knows who or where he gave the money too.

I told her I was worried for her. Errin has always been violent, abusive, and disconnected from reality. Plus, methamphetamine is a hell of a drug. Before when he was so broke he was begging for cigarettes I wasn’t worried, but now that he was handed somewhere in the woods of $65,000 dollars, he has the means to travel. And the only person standing in between him and a big cash payout is my sister. Being that me and my sister are his only living relatives, who he has personal vendetta’s against, honestly he wouldn’t hesitate to hurt either of us. Truly it’s her who’s in danger though. I told her not to meet him anywhere. I hope she moves sooner rather than later so that he no longer has her address. This is the type of stuff that true crime episodes are made of.

I think he’s either going to murder someone (with or without Julie) and wind up in jail, or he’s going to wind up dead from an overdose or someone killing him, or he’ll get robbed or blow it and wind up homeless on the streets. I just hope it happens before he takes anyone with him.