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Tommy and I raise Wesley with minimal use of the word "no"
This does not mean that we don’t discipline Wesley. Or that we don’t tell him not to do things.
We just try and minimise the use of the actual WORD "no"
We use "Don’t" and "Stop" instead, in most cases.
Many, many people have questioned this. Even acused us of being bad parents because we don’t discipline Wesley (which is simply untrue)
Even my own mother refuses to adhere to this one request we have (Please don’t use the word "no")
I’ve never questioned this decision that Tommy and I have made.
But it’s nice when something/one re-enforces the fact that we have made the right choice.
http://www.parentsconnect.com/questions/child-behavior-dont-say-no.jhtml
Dude. He’s your kid! Forget what everyone else says, raise him the way you want!
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I don’t think that there is anything wrong with that. You are the parents and Wesley is your son, you can do as you see fit. 🙂
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People are so silly to get all worked up about something that doesn’t even concern them! I have another friend who rarely uses “no” and she has the sweetest, best behaved little boy (well, he’s 5 now).
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I hate when people try to tell you how to raise your own child. My daughter is only 6 months old and I’ve already run into serveral people that try and tell me how to raise her. As the mom you know what is best for your child 🙂
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Did you read Unconditional Parenting?? It’s exactly this….here is a time for no (running into the street?) and we save it for super dangerous events…not discipline!!
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Never justify the way you raise your son, he is your son, not theirs.
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I agree. I think it’s much wiser to use a simple phrase or another word instead of saying no all the time. That said, I feel like I say no,stop,don’t a lot!
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*RYN* Oh yes, you have been on there since the beginning! 🙂
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my doctor has actually told me to avoid using the word no. if you give them options instead of telling them no to everything they are more likely to listen. i think it has a positive effect on children.
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*RYN* We haven’t decided on the kitchen yet….and I need to see if my parents are getting it for him b/c they mentioned something about it.
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some ppl are too nosy. my MIL was putting me down behind my back (i have a spy in the family) the other day b/c i won’t let my child cry himself to sleep. i mean, come on, there’s something wrong with my mothering b/c i won’t let him cry???????
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