8 ways to win me over

Day One: Ten things you want to say to ten different people right now.
Day Two: Nine things about yourself.
Day Three: Eight ways to win your heart.
Day Four: Seven things that cross your mind a lot.
Day Five: Six things you wish you’d never done.
Day Six: Five people who mean a lot (in no order whatsoever)
Day Seven: Four turn-offs.
Day Eight: Three turn-ons.
Day Nine: Two images that describe your life right now, and why.
Day Ten: One confession.

I’m afraid that some of these are going to make me sound awfully shallow! I guess I just know what I want? And I feel as though I’ve already found it so there is no need to settle for less.

1. Appreciate nice things… nice restaurants, a nice home, a nice car. I’m not saying that these things have to be expensive- they just have to be respectable- ie don’t tell me that your favorite restaurant for steak is Perkins (and don’t tell me that you eat your steak well done!). Don’t have a dirty (on the inside) car with crap strewn about and a rotting sandwich under the seat. Show that you take pride in your stuff- it shows that you have pride in yourself.

2. Have an education and prove to me that you’re going somewhere and doing something with your life. If you don’t have an education, then it better have been for a good reason and you’d better not be stupid. If you know more than I do and are consistently correct in your claims (I know plenty of people who always seem to think that they know everything but don’t- and it’s annoying when I knowingly hear them spreading misinformation about something)  then I’m going to be drawn to you. Science geeks and people who can have long-winded theoretical conversations get huge points.

3. Be outgoing and easy to talk to. I tend to be shy and uncomfortable around new people and new situations (see previous entry for more on that), so I need a partner that can help to bring me out of my shell.

4. Make my parents love you. If my parents don’t like you then I’m not going to like you either.

5. Show me that you love animals as much as I do. Have a well-trained dog or a cool cat or rat or ferret or horse or goat or whatever. Just don’t dislike animals and don’t be a spazz who can’t take a cat on your lap or a dog kiss. 

6. Sometimes I go off on tangents. Sometimes I’ll begin a rant and end up going somewhere completely different and forget what I’d been talking about in the first place. Be patient with me and listen even if my story is unimportant. I’m obviously telling it to you for a reason- even if it’s just to get it off of my chest. That’s not to say that you can’t try to guide me back in the direction that we were going- I’ll probably appreciate that.

7. Don’t be cheap and don’t be a mooch! I have nothing against frugality, but don’t turn it in to a full time job and give me a hard time for wanting to go to Hell’s Kitchen for brunch when the place down the street (who doesn’t even have french toast or pancakes on the menu, for christs sake) is having a three-for-one bloody mary special.

8. And here is where I get really shallow: you have got to be tall. Like, tall tall. At least 6’2". 6’4"+ preferred. I like men who could have been lumberjacks. If you’re a male of average height or shorter then I’m afraid you could probably do just about everything right and still never win my heart. because, well, I’m not attracted to men who are of average height or are short. I liken this to me, a straight woman, trying to be attracted to another woman: it just doesn’t happen. I can look at women and see that they’re pretty or attractive or whatever, but women don’t make my heart flutter- they can’t do it for me. It’s the same thing when it comes to short or average height men- they just can’t do it for me.