Mothertríocha
So I’m 30 now. It’s been a lot less traumatic than I expected it to be. I’ve been grey-haired for a while now, I’ve hated standing in crowded pubs since forever and I outgrew nightclubs after college. I like city breaks, boxsets and writing letters to newspapers. I’ve been in a 30-something mindset for many years.
It feels like my age has finally caught up with my brain. And I know that sounds like a sad thing but it’s liberating not to have to feel like you should be “out there”. Travelling the world, snorting drugs off a cistern, catching STDs from ladies – none of these things ever appealed to me. I like waking in my own bed, living in my own country and coming home to the same woman every day.
Drugs never appealed to me. Maybe they would if I got bored of alcohol but I haven’t yet. To this day, I’m happy getting buzzy, merry, sozzled and shitfaced – in that order. I just have to avoid the next stage, which has many names in this country: fuckfaced and cunted being just two gems.
I had my 30th birthday the other day, which I marked with a few drinks in my favourite pub in Dublin. It sounds simple but I’ve never done it before. I’ve never had any kind of public event marking my birthday since I was around 12. I’ve had dinners, weekend breaks – even a night at the theatre to see Ralph Fiennes tell an audience member – while in character – to “turn off the fucking phone” (my 21st). But never anything with invites and a specific date and time, which constitutes a party in my eyes.
I only had one because I felt I should mark the occasion by turning 30 in the company of the people who’ve been friends without my ever acknowledging it. I know it sounds weird but I haven’t ever been part of a group of friends on my own. I’ve been on the periphery or something like it. And yet last Friday, a bunch of people decided to come to this lovely pub and wish me happy birthday. Over 20 anyway, possibly 30 – huge numbers to me. And just the idea of that is kinda nice.
So I should probably try and live my 30s like this. Not be too afraid or shy to say “y’know what, I’m having a party – and I’m the reason for it”. I had 14 pints of Smithwicks and a Jack Daniels, some platters of food for everyone, caught up with a ton of people, discovered unknown links between cousins and survived to tell the tale. I’m so glad I did it.
Joe
Yay for being thirty! Glad you enjoyed it. I think it was my best birthday yet, I tend to avoid marking the occasion and never did the whole official party malarchy before really. It seems a 30th is the new 21st. I am almost your complete opposite though. I love waking up somewhere else other than here, and am dying to go travelling EVERYWHERE…but I do like having the one man in my bed 🙂
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Aw, happy belated! Sounds like a fun party indeed!
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happy belated birthday. Sounds like a lovely way to celebrate.
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ryn: thanks for the suggestions. Arrested Development is brill alright, I loved it, apart from the last season which was such a disappointment. Didn’t really take to 30 rock but will give it another try if you reckon it’s worth it.
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ryn You make it sound like the president is thinking of converting to homosexuality.
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ryn: oh yeah, they’re seriously well worth checking out! The outlet part of it is great if you ever feel the need to get something a bit extra special, or if you’re addicted to pricey labels. I got my laser eye surgery sun glasses there, some swanky make with every sort of UVB etc protection for a measley 20. Sign up for their newsletter, they send out codes for 20% off regularly enough.
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at least it wasnt 14 jack daniels and a smithwicks, then you might have been in trouble 😉
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ryn I am not keen on apple stuff. I want a pad that I can plug a usb into and upload pics onto and one that daesnt make me use itunes.
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Congratulations dude!
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ryn http://www.weightlossdrops.org/ I think those are the ones!
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ryn AHAHAH!!!! I didn’t even notice that. Really though, I am Justin Bateman’s biggest fan. I have ‘Justin Bateman’ tattoo’ed on my arm. Bahahah!
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ryn I think you are right. the sister comment really hit the nail on the head.
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Hi, thanks for the request. I have added you and look forward to reading more! Lee Mee xXx
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ryn: No,why?
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Ryn: and thanks!
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Ryn ah must be just great minds. Or over familiarity with Beyonce lyrics!!
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RYN: Kind of, but nothing TOO bad.
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uhhh… ok? It was meant to make a statement, not to actually label it. Thanks for your input tho! I appreciate the criticism 🙂
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Thanks. Hate feeling like this and the weather isn’t helping. Supposed to be an electric storm today/tomorrow (wed) anyway so it’s getting worse. Hate having to prove my worth. So, belated birthday and thank you again. Twi
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RYN: She’s vastly overrated. Cute as a button, granted, but she’s a sycophant for today’s nerd generation; a walking, talking, cosplaying ruse.
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Will you have time to meet up when in London? Was thinking the other day how much I’d love to see you guys again. Also, give us an entry, g’on!
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