loyalties to whom?

I am having a ridiculously hard time with my best friend right now. And I am not sure how to approach it. Everytime we hang out she picks some fight with me. Whether it is politics, religion, or my personal life. Last night she was picking on my opinions regarding affirmative action and my boyfriend. She called him a bunch of horrible names, and made fun of his personal choices regarding school, careers etc. I didn’t even know what to say, so I just ignored it. But something have just gotten way out of hand. She thinks I am a horrible person for not believing in a higher power, and likes to argue this perpetually. And I guess I don’t have the guts to just say, LET ME BE! Just let me live. I am happy with my life, and feel like I am accomplishing serious things, and I value her opinion. But only when I ask for it and certainly not when it is my way or the highway.

I am just so extremely frustrated with her. And it has gotten to the point where I do not enjoy hanging out with her. Simply confessions like, I am tired and would like to go home now, turn into huge fights because I’m being a baby or Jason is forcing me to go home. Both of which are not true. I go to school full time, work 16 hours a week at Ric’s and close to 30 hours at the Casino. When you add in sleep, my family, homework, my friends and last on the totem pole, my boyfreind. Hell yeah I am tired. There is no way I can stay up till 4, 5 in the AM any more. I guess I am just old. And I think calling it a night at last call is 100% reasonable.

I am just cranky, and I am hungry too. The boyfriend is not hungry right now, and finishing the last 20 pages of his book. Oh well.

Clanky

January 13, 2007

Sometimes people have different opinions and I’ve noticed in the past that your opinions tend to be very strong. Maybe she has had different opinions than you all along and is finally just trying to be herself and is uncomfortable for her because since you’ve always assumed she thought the same way that you’ve inadvertently insulted her. *shrugs* I’m older. This has happened to me. I had a friend totally criticize these people once, going on and on and really, I was with them and took his criticism of them very personally.

*hugs* I hear ya..Im having issues with my best friend…i have finally made the decision to go our seperate ways…things are not the same and she causes me more problems and pain and we do not have fun together anymore because she constantly judges and criticizes my every move..and cannot accept anything i do..and its her loss

ryn re hello kitty: Yeah, I messed up Freds’ bagel this morning because I reversed it, so he didn’t get to see her. But like you said, it’s kind of creepy eating her!

ryn: YUCK! You know, it occurs to me that perhaps you’ve outgrown each other. And she sounds a bit evangelical. I know religious people that just love god and everyone and others expect everyone to believe what they believe. I don’t think I could have a best friend like that. And the disrespect thing? I would end it over that. *hugs* I’m sorry she’s not being such a good friend. You deserve better than that!

silverstorm19

hmm… my friend and i do that when we spend more than a week or so together. lol otherwise we’re great! – noah

Sir_Curtis

January 17, 2007

*HUG* I get annoyed by people like that. 🙂 Oh well, it takes all kinds. 😉 Have an amazing week. 😉