Of Flats and Marriage Plans

Recently J and I have been touching on the topic of getting married, buying a house, etc. Or rather, it seemed that I was the one who often started it. Then somehow, both of us got frustrated over the whole thing. Perhaps I was too enthusiastic, always kept asking him when shd we prepare for this and that…

Now, there was a reason behind my anxiety. He had suggested that we ROM next year, on 10 Dec as that was the day we got together. Then as we all know, u need to book your wedding reception at least one year in advance, esp if it falls on a wkend. And so, I kept telling him that we need to do it fast and things like that. And then, he started feeling frustrated. And his frustration got onto me and I ended up feeling frustrated too. I just felt that he dont see the need to get organised so early. In the end, we ended up like what he said, I killed his enthusiaism and somehow, he killed mine too.  

Eventually we agreed that we would need to get a house first b4 doing anything. Buy a house and then plan things from there. But we hv diff ideas abt house. He prefers to stay near his parents as they will probably be taking care of our kids in future. I prefer to buy a new flat, not a resale one. And it seems that there isnt many new flats in the west side now. And he’s not going to consider Sengkang. Well, for this matter, we shall take a step as we go along. Probably we’ll change our ideas when more reality sinks in.

And so, now we will be waiting for HDB’s move.

Recently he told me that his area has empty flats and the price is not too expensive. Seriously I dont think I’ll want that becoz I think it’s too near to his parents’ place. And when u live TOO near, there will be inconveniences (or well, somebody may think it’s conveniences). He also said 5 room flats are only $xxxx more than the 4 room ones. Well, perhaps 5 room will be better value for money but I’ll still prefer 4 room ones. I dont see the need to get a better-value-for-money flat just for the sake of it.

We sort of calculated our finances. I’ll say we are not that financially sound yet. But by next year, things shd be better as we shd be bldg up our CPF savings. 

It’s our 5th anniversary today. I’ll touch on that in the next entry, becoz it’s something special and I think that deserves an entry on its own