Today’s Phone Call, Part 2

To my surprise, she and I spoke again this afternoon. 

I think we resolved whatever problems were plaguing us for much of these past three weeks.  At the very least, I feel much better about things and judging from the tone of her voice, I think that she does too.

Sometimes people have different ways of arguing and dealing with confrontation.  Clearly, she and I do and maybe, we’re still working through some of those issues.  What remains the same in the end is this. 

We need to communicate with each other and be open to that communication.

We have to let our feelings out, just as we have to allow the other’s words to reach us.    

As we proved again today, when we are able to talk and iron things out, good things happen.  When we understand each other, things make sense and resolutions are reached. 

It’s when we create distance between us, regardless of who is initiating that distance, where we run into problems.      

I sort of referred to our latest argument and aftermath as being similar to when the body is battling an infection.  When the body is infected, ideally, you’d want to treat the infection as soon as possible, to prevent it from spreading and getting worse.  In this regard, timely medication can play a huge role in recovery and the healing of the affected area. 

So, for us, the argument is the infection.  Talking things out would be the medication.  Allowing negative feelings to linger and even get worse would be the infection spreading. 

I told her that all we needed to do was talk everything out, though in a timelier fashion.  She agreed. 

I am hoping that we’re able to diffuse an argument more quickly than what happened this time around, because in the end, I had to reiterate to her again. 

I hate arguing with her.

I really do. 

I am truly hopeful that we can handle things in a timelier fashion. 

I guess we’ll see what happens, because as much as I don’t want to think about it…

…there will be a next time.