People…

I got an email today from my cousin. She is a nurse and told me that she did not appreciate me complaining about the nurses when I was in the hospital last week. I can understand her being defensive of her profession. But, don’t be so blind to think that every nurse is wonderful and thrilled with their job.

I thought about it and wanted to be mean in my response. I wasn’t. I explained that I had complained to her about ONE of the nurses that told me to drink water when I asked for pain meds for a headache and nausea. I told her that I went out of my way to let the Unit Coordinator know how much I appreciated the other nurses.

More than anything, it hurt my feelings to receive this email from my cousin. Her and I have become very close over the past couple years and it’s truly been an unexpected friendship.

I emailed her again and told her I felt that there was more going on in her life and that I’m not good with conflict. I told her that I thought it wasn’t even me she was upset at – I was just a convenient person to lash out at. She responded saying she was not happy and couldn’t talk about it.

The saddest part is that words can’t be taken back and the damage has been done. There will always be trepidation in expressing myself and I will wonder if I’m gonna get told how to feel and think about things.

Sigh… Only time will tell.

Turtles

October 4, 2009

I think you should be true to yourself & keep strong in your beliefs. I agree that she is probably taking out some of her hurt and anger out on you. Thats too bad, but just try to be there & it will work out. Hope you feel better. Hugs

She's Our You

I work with nurses and some of them are fantastic and wonderful, sadly there are those (more than a few) who are just awful or worse. Just like ever other profession. Things happened to you, good and bad, and you have the right to talk about them. 🙂

Stephy_B

October 5, 2009

ryn: ty. im nervous, but hopeful. it always sucks when people tell you how to feel because of a position, even more so when its not even you they’re upset at or about. im sure it will work out tho. maybe your cousin really does have other stuff going on.

Byrdie

just stopping by to say hello and hope that you are feeling much better:) Sorry about what happened between you and your cousin.I hope it works out. *hugs

gray tabby

October 7, 2009

i complained about the nursing care my husband got while he was in the hopsital over a year ago. they took care of it right away. some nurses are awful but for the most part they are wonderful and do their job just fine. how else are the bad ones supposed to get better if they don’t know what they’re doing wrong? the ones that were with my husband at the end were so wonderful to both me and him. take care,

ninnoc

May 6, 2010

wow, that was quite sensitive of you. usually when people are attacked they’re defensive and hit right back eh. i think it’s incredibly special to be able to see through the attack to the possible reasons behind it.