Dating Past… part 2

So the second relationship after my son’s father and I broke up and before I married for the last time was even worse than the last.

I also met him online and he said he lived local and met me at a restaurant near his office for lunch. He didn’t seem to be much like the physical type I liked but he was very sweet. He said he didn’t have his license at the moment because of a traffic citation. So I had to pick him up to go out and brought him to my house after a few dates. He divulged to me that he had be in jail a fw times in his life for drugs and theft related to being on drugs but that he was clean and had been for a long time. I decided to give him a chance thinking I’d want someone to give my brother a chance. I also think that during that time of my life I just wanted a man in my life. Soon he came and stayed with me because he says there was work being done on his house and he didn’t have anywhere to stay. While staying with me I dropped him at his job sites every day. He worked construction. He was paying my bills (his choice, not mine) and buying me gifts and my kids gifts. I was just getting on my feet from the last relationship, just looking for a job again too. He was a big help! He finally got his license back and bought a nice car. He seemed to always have a lot of money and I thought he must be doing great in his construction job. As a little time went on things started seeming off. I was afraid he could be using again, he was seeking hyper at times. I also was wondering why I hadn’t seen his house yet. Finally after burning him he took me to this house that had no furniture and only an old mattress on the floor in one room with a blanket and pillow. I couldn’t understand what I was seeing and his story wasn’t making sense. Also around that time I had went with him to drop me at a job interview. We’r weren’t gone very long but when I came home I found that my house had been broken into and my stereo wad gone af well as all the jewelry I had, and some old coins worth some money. He waded there by my side when I reported it. About a week later he says he saw some people hiding out across the street from me in a semi truck and said he saw them by my house. He called the cops and the cops checked it out and to my surprise they found my stereo. He was the hero catching the bad guy… Something seemed off about that to me and I started distancing myself from him. He went to stay at “his” house for a few day’s. The day he came back he was in the house cleaning up the kitchen sheet wer had lunch and I had just been called my my daughter to the porch. She said she saw men in black all surrounding our house. I went to check it out and sure enough that’s what was going on. A man approached me and asked for Rob. I called him outside and he was immediately arrested and cuffed and taken away. The detective I spoke with told me he had been embezzling from his employer, an 85yr old woman. I of course cooperated with the investigation and talked to the old woman. She was so sweet. She understood that I didn’t know about any of it. So the money he had given me and things he bought me weren’t going to be held against me.  He tried calling me and writing to me all the time. I told him it was over and didn’t want to hear from him again. I told him when he was to get out of jail his things would be in my patio and he could take them and his car and go. I got a phone call from his stepmom and she told me he had been in jail and prison most of his life. He also had stolen from every relative and friend who had tried to help him. He had a daughter he lost custody of and never saw anymore. They lived in Florida. Shortly after all of this took place I found out that he had actually set up the burglary. He purposely left a door unlocked that day for the guy to get inside. He also found where I had kept my checks and drained my bank account by using the check information online for dating sites and pornography sites. It caused alot of overdraft…again and this time right before Christmas. I had no money to buy my kids Christmas presents. Months later, right before Christmas I met my next/ last husband and he bought my kids Christmas gifts. 

So you see that awful relationships, the awful luck I’ve had in dating and in marriage. That is why I chose to be single and not date anymore. I mean, I have dated since my divorce but have been so careful because I don’t trust easily anymore. However, no one quite worked out and I found that I was less stressed and alot happier on my own. I don’t think I’ll ever date again. I think this is what I want for life. The only thing that could change that is if Carl, the guy holding me at a distance, changes and actually pursues me and seeks a real meaningful relationship. I’d consider that depending on how things went. But I truly am happy on my own!