10 years of marriage

On August 7th my husband and I will have been married for 10 years. I can’t believe how fast times flies. I’m so blessed to be married to the man.  I really do love him. Every guy that I dated before him was selfish and immature. My husband is a true partner. He cooks, cleans, supports me in my choices, grocery shops with me, and now helps me with our new baby. We do life together.

In my 10 years of marriage I have learned a lot. This day in age a woman can’t have it all and do it all alone. I don’t know why some people try to sell that as truth. It’s impossible to be a mother that’s present for her children and spouse and also kicking ass at a full time job. Something will get neglected, which is why I knew my husband was the one for me. I was so picky about who I would marry because I wanted a life partner, not a sex partner. I think so many people get caught up in the romance and sexual attraction and have really unrealistic ideas about marriage and relationships. Attraction is super important, but I think a lot of people don’t realize that it’s lower on the totem pole of what makes a marriage work. When I think about my marriage and what makes it work, it all comes down to core values. My husband and I share similar views on love, marriage, God, family, money, and children. We enjoy a lot of the same activities and overall we grew up in similar family cultures. I know several married couples that fight often and I can pretty much narrow it down to the fact that they don’t have similar life lenses. A couple that is like-minded is much less likely to fight.

I’m so grateful to be married to a man that I not only love, but like as well. Sure, nobody is perfect and I do fight with my hubby on occasion, but it’s only over small things. I will take our dumb fights over huge core value problems any day. It’s good to be happily married. Dating is awful. I feel bad for the swipers out there on their apps trying to find a diamond in the rough.

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August 3, 2021

꧁༺ Happy Anniversary ༻꧂

You are so wise beyond your years.  You have the secret of a great marriage.  I had one like yours.  Believe me.  It will be even more full now that the little one is here.  The love you have together is greater than the sum of its parts.  The only thing my husband disliked doing was folding laundry!  Good for you to wait for the right one.  Having like values and views on those important things you mention is key to the success of your time together.  It is a quality partnership.  I am so happy for you.  You both could use a couple of hours out alone on your anniversary.  Whatever you do, I know you’ll do it together.  What’s not to love about that?!  🙂

August 3, 2021

This is amazing and I am so happy for you. I am currently dating someone who I thought I would marry but life has handed us a few things that has really made that dream challenging. I want so much to have what you do and I hope that one day it is present. DATING is horrendous… and I wont do it again if this relationship fails…. No thanks.

August 25, 2021

@genmarie90 dating is so horrible. Marriage has its hard times too, but in dating hard times, people just bail. It’s really bad.

August 25, 2021

@theheartspeaks yep! They get to the point where the relationship takes work and compromise and decide maybe the grass is greener elsewhere. The thing is… every woman has her own level of crazy just like every man does…. Everyone comes with baggage…. You just have to figure out what level of crazy you’re comfortable with and how much baggage you can accept. A perfect relationship is one with alot of secrets!