Epiphany about myself

I was listening to a podcast about attachment and how we obsess about people and why we do this. This has been a pattern in all my relationships. As a child/teenager my mom was very controlling. She controlled me in almost every day to day things, food intake, grades, clothing and friends I had, I always rebelled but at the end she won, this has made myself as a codependent. To not abandon myself to others is the key to my freedom.

I need to be the main character in my life. I always put others in front of myself which then makes my energy needy to get approval from them aka my mom. I do not blame her she knew not better but I need to stop this toxic behavior. Blessed to have a mind that always seeks answers and knowledge