It’s one thing to know which friends are toxic and to know when to keep your distance but it’s another thing to be in the process of figuring out that that bitch who keeps invalidating you is toxic AF. And at first, it’s confusing because you already let her into your world. You already established a friendship with brunches, dinners and sleepovers. So it’s very disorienting when she first invalidates your experience and keeps masking it under “the hard truth” or “tough love.” It’s easy to excuse something like that because her personality is very straightforward because you think she is just giving her honest opinion, which she is. The problem comes in when she keeps using that invalidation to bring you down to the point where you have to constantly prove your side of the story or why you feel the way you feel. For you it’s confusing but for them, it’s a sport to make you look stupid. They’re the creators of chaos and they won’t stop until they’ve destroyed whatever they’ve set out to destroy completely. Let’s say your hater friend disapproves of your relationship, which is fine, a good friend will if it’s toxic. But the difference with the toxic friend is that she keeps using that relationship as a way to bring you down. And the dissonance is so strong in the beginning to the point where you don’t wanna talk to her about it. But she keeps prying, she keeps asking, she keeps pushing. At this point, your relationship is her part-time hobby. And why would she care so much?? She doesn’t. For her, it’s just another thing to control and destroy. If you disagree with her, she gets mad. How dare you question her godliness?! After all, she wants the best for you. She’s on your side. Except, she isn’t. Her only aim is to watch you tumble down in the fog and make fun of you until you hit the rock bottom. It’s their way of supply. It’s their way of getting attention. Think about it; if it wasn’t for your relationship, who would be paying attention to her? Who would be listening to her so-called great advice of high-mountain-monk wisdom. They’re very self-righteous about it; I’m right and you’re wrong. And you’re wrong because you got demons who are clouding your judgment. It’s that kind of bullshit. Oh, she’ll gaslight you even further, to say that even therapy won’t help you because that’s how far down you’ve tumbled. No matter what you do, there’s is no hope for you, will be her exact message. Classic projection. The only thing you can do, is to block someone like that out of your life and never wonder what could’ve been. Block her while you still have your sanity because she will make sure it gets taken away. It’s their natural gift.