#neglect

Okay, so I don't know anything about inner child work. I hear about it constantly. But from what little I understand, there's more than just "the inner child" but it's actually inner children, aka different versions of yourself from your development that had different needs. I'm very excited to u...

Okay, I'm back. I've had a really hard time the last few days. It's really sinking for me that I don't have any happy memories. They're very few. All my memories are tainted. Every good memory is linked to 20 bad ones. That's why I can't get any relief in my mind. I can't go…

Last night something really dark settled in my body and mind. My mother is a child abuser. I've realized over the years that her behavior was abusive and incredibly damaging. I know that makes her an abuser, but my programming was still protecting her. I still wanted to believe it wasn't that bad...

Every day for the past 40 years I've felt like the little girl who ran upstairs to pack my clothes in a black garbage bag so my mom could take me home with her. Why didn't she love me? Why did she keep leaving me. I rushed because she said it was time to go,…

https://outofthefog.website/what-it-feels-like/ This is a collection of articles describing what it can feel like to be in a relationship with someone who suffers from a personality disorder. Feeling Isolated - It's common for people who have a relationship with someone who suffers from a persona...

https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-1/ A collection of ideas and responses to personality disordered behaviors that have worked well in most cases. The 3 "C's" Rule - The 3 "C's" rule is a mantra for abuse victims that says: "I didn't cause it, I can't cure it and I can't control it." The 51% ...

Exploitive relationships create trauma bonds. These occur when a victim bonds with someone who is destructive to them. Similarly, adult survivors of abusive and dysfunctional families struggle with bonds that are rooted in their own trauma experiences. To be loyal to that which does not work - or...

My ex can build computers from scratch, he is smart like that. I don't trust him much; he is emotionally immature and abusive from my perspective; he lies to me. I bought a new computer he has never touched and started a new email. I am not taking any chances that he put spyware on…

You wrote this yesterday, in the morning, and then at lunchtime you had a full ball panic attack at college, in front of people. The shame you felt, are still feeling will break before you come back next week, it's just the humiliation of  showing your vulnerability and weakness in front of other...